Magic happens when we bring the generations together. It is not neat and tidy; rather it is chaotic and messy
(Martineau, Faith Formation Across Generations, 2).
As an aunt and godmother to six beloved children, some of my favorite moments with them are spent around the table talking, praying, laughing, and catching up with one another. Since I live in a different state, the opportunities to sit at the table with these precious children are few with much time in between visits. Therefore, the moments when I do find myself sitting around the table with their families are extremely valuable and life giving. It is in these rare moments that I experience the gift that God gives through the breaking of the bread and the sharing of a community meal.
Gathered around the table, we share stories, laugh, cry, and reconnect as we break bread together. I often find myself holding one of my godchildren, leaning over to grab the fork that fell on the floor, while trying to explain something I am working on to my brother-in-law, sister, or friend. In these moments we vie for each other’s attention and an opportunity to share what we are thinking and feeling.
Of course there are moments when someone decides they do not want to eat the broccoli on their plate so it gets thrown to the floor in disgust, another remembers there’s food still in the oven and jumps up to save the dish, the baby screams out of hunger and frustration, and someone realizes we forgot napkins and jumps up to get them. It is during these times that my sister looks at me and says, “Welcome to the craziness!” I always reply, “I love it!” I ponder how this chaos makes me feel alive, brings me joy, and creates a deep and overwhelming sense of gratitude and give thanks to God for my family and friends. It is in these moments that I squeeze the child I am holding a little tighter and I thank God for the gift of life, love, and relationships that sustain us through the chaos of life.
These “table moments” are a microcosm of life. God is the creator who brings order out of chaos. It is in and through the “craziness” that God creates- calling us forth to participate in the work of the Kingdom. We are called to the table. We bring our individual voices, opinions, stories, feelings, and gifts. Sometimes this chaos drains us and other times it brings us joy. Yet, in and through it all, when we pay attention we can experience God’s creative presence. God creates us to be in relationship, equips each of us (no matter our age) for this life together, empowers and sustains us as we work together, and moves in and through our time together. It is in these moments that God moves- transforming individuals, families, communities, and the world.
- I wonder when your family gathers together?
- I wonder where your family gathers together?
- I wonder what you feel when your family is gathered together?
- I wonder how you experience God during these table moments?
- I wonder how you can create intentional time to gather as a family?
How to make the most out of your “Table Moments”
- Meal Blessing Placemats
- Choose a “family meal blessing” (this can be spoken or sung)
- Create place mats with your family’s “Grace before meals” (if you choose to have a grace after meals you can put this on the place mats too)
- Say/Sing the grace together before meals
- Light a Candle (this can be with a real flame or a battery operated device)
- Place a candle in the middle of your family dinner table
- Light the candle before the meal (family members might want to take turns)
- Create a liturgy that you can say every time you light the candle, reminding your family that God is with you during the meal. Example:
- Leader: The Lord be with you
- Family: And also with you
- Leader: We light this candle as a reminder that God is with us as we gather together.
- Family: We see the candle and remember- God loves us and is with us.
- All: Amen
- “I wonder” cards: Place a box of I wonder questions on your kitchen table, give everyone a chance to answer the question during the meal.
- Example Resource: Little Box of Big Questions
- Example Questions:
- I wonder what your favorite Bible story is?
- I wonder what your favorite color is?
- I wonder what your favorite place is?
- I wonder who your best friends are?
- Practice the Daily Examine/Share highs and lows from the day.
- Example Resource: Sleeping with Bread, Holding onto what gives you life.
- Example Questions:
- I wonder when you felt close to God today?
- I wonder when you felt happy today?
- I wonder when you felt alone today?
- I wonder when you felt sad today
- I wonder if anything made you feel better?
- I wonder if you made someone feel better?
- I wonder what the best part of your day was?
- I wonder what the hardest part of your day was?
- (For early meals): I wonder what you are looking forward to doing today?
- I wonder how you experienced God today?
- I wonder how you shared God’s love with others?